6 Things You Learn After Becoming Sober
The journey to sobriety can be long and hard. However, when you reach that goal, you may realize how different and more fulfilling your sober life is.
There is no denying that overcoming addiction offers some important life lessons. If you are just starting out on your sober journey, you should know that the more you do something, the better you will be at it, including sobriety.
6 Life Lessons from Sober Living
While each personâ€™s journey to sobriety is unique, there are many common themes and life lessons. Here are six things you might learn about becoming sober.
1. Who Your Real Friends Are
As an addict, you probably had â€œparty friendsâ€ who participated in the same behaviors as you. While some of these friends may still support you in your sober life, others may abandon you. Your real friends are those who love you for you, no matter what you are doing.
2. How to Cope with Feelings Instead of Avoiding Them
Many people turn to drugs and alcohol to avoid unwanted feelings, like loneliness, depression, or anxiety. No one wants to feel these unpleasant feelings. However, as a sober person, you learn to face those feelings in a much healthier way. In addition to the negative feelings, you might also experience the full impact of positive emotions, like love, happiness, and contentment.
3. How to Be Honest
If you are trying to hide your addiction and other risky behaviors, you are likely lying to those you love. Perhaps you told your parents you were going to study with friends when you were really heading out to get drunk.
In a sober life, you will learn that being honest is always best. Even when the truth is painful or disappointing, those you love will be more willing to help and support you when you are completely honest with them.
In addition to being honest with others, you will learn to be honest with yourself. You will recognize when you are struggling and when to ask for help.
4. Love Is Unconditional
Suffering through an addiction can sometimes make you feel undeserving of love. Whether that is the love from your parents, siblings, friends, or other loved ones, being sober helps you realize that true love is unconditional. Being sober can help you see all the sacrifices those around you have made to support you in your sober journey.
5. Relationships Become More Meaningful
After becoming sober, many people realize that most of their previous relationships were superficial. Many friends were only â€œdrinking buddies.â€ As a sober person, you may realize that maintaining real relationships is easier and more meaningful. When you are not suffering through the effects of addiction, you have more time to focus on your connections with friends and family.
6. Balance Is Key
One of the most important factors in a successful sober life is achieving the right life balance. This can be challenging for anyone. However, balance is critical to help you avoid a relapse. In recovery, a sober social life can feel challenging. However, you should continually work to find the right balance between your social, work, family, and personal life.
Get the Support You Need After Becoming Sober
The transition to a sober lifestyle can be challenging. One path that many people choose is a sober living community. This type of environment surrounds you with people on a similar journey as yourself. With the same goal of sobriety, you can work together to learn from and support each other.
Are you or a loved one ready to move on to a sober life? The sober living community at Ethos Recovery is designed to support young men overcoming addiction.
Ready to learn more? Contact us to hear more about our community-centered approach to healing.
Author – Chris Howard
Chris Howard is the Founder and Director of Ethos Recovery. He has a B.A. in Psychology from UCLA and has served as a community advocate/mentor for men and women in recovery since 2010.